Jun 9, 2005

I Feel Pretty And Witty And Gay...

For those of you new to the site, welcome! Freaky Friday is the designated day for sex talk on my blog.

***IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER*** This is sexually explicit material and may not be suitable for younger members of our blogging audience.

Before we start let me just say that some of my most respected colleagues, loved family members and cherished friends are gay. And having known them over a long period of time, I've come to the conclusion that none of them had a choice in their sexual orientation, any more than I did.

Back when I was in school I didn't know what gay meant, much less entertain having a same sex relationship (well, okay, maybe once with my best friend across the street, but we were 11 and taking turns being the Prince of Donegal). I just knew there were a couple of boys in the school who didn't like sports...we called them sissies. And one of the female twins in my neighborhood could beat up everybody on the block, including the linebacker. We called her a tomboy.

That having been said, I've noticed things have changed A LOT since then. I know you're saying "no duh" right? But I can't help but think that things have gone too far. I'll give you a couple of examples.

Example number one: 7 years ago when my daughter was in high school they had to ban public displays of affection in the hallways, not because of the boys kissing the girls...but the boys kissing the boys, etc.

Example number two: Around that same time one of her best friends who was in a bit rougher school district said it was commonplace to get "felt up" by acquaintances walking down the hallway. What was more shocking than the fact that the students were doing it, was that she didn't think it was that big of a deal.

Example number three: Just the other day my best friend's niece said that three/fourths of the kids at her middle school are in gay relationships. Now I'm not sure about the ratio of heterosexuality to homosexuality, but I'm pretty sure it's not 25%:75%. When exactly did it become not only acceptable, but COOL to be gay? I'm sorry, but I missed that memo. I mean, I'm happy that the kids are much more accepting of the diversity all around us, but there's a difference between accepting it and embracing it, literally, in the hallways...under the bleachers...at the prom.

Example number four: And what is this stuff about the kids going around in big groups instead of dating as a couple? At first I thought it was just immaturity and resistance to intimacy until I learned about the lovely phrase "bed buddies." This is where friends "take care" of each other's sexual needs without the bothersome emotions and attachments.

Example number five: And then there are the girls who are saving themselves for their wedding night while they satisfy their boyfriends with oral and anal sex. Once again we can thank Bill and Monica for defining what sex is...and isn't.

Now, I do not consider myself part of the religious right. I pride myself on having an open mind. But I remember my teenage years as dates to the movies, hours of intimate conversation on the phone with my boyfriend, mums, kisses at the door and a promise ring. Yes we had sex, but it was meaningful. We were emotionally attached.

What will the youth of today have to look back on? I shudder to think.


Nankin said...

I have to agree. I don't want to see two wo/men making out in public any more than a male/female display. Some things should be kept private. If someone wants to be a sex god/ess more power to them,but that doesn't mean that I want to witness their love tryst. Yes, I am old fashioned. I just don't understand making a normal and beautifu display of love turned into animal mating rights with no emotions attached. Kids have always thought, "Oh, nothing will happen to me." They don't know their own mortality. What a shame.

Bill said...

I am, and have always been in favor of PDA's... I'm not talking about hands inside clothes kinds of stuff, but a hug, a kiss.. to me that's just natural.

I've read some on the recent 'Bi' craze, seems it's 'cool' in some circles to be bi-sexual... in that way, things have definitely changed.

I don't know if there were any gay folks at my high school, because if they were, they knew better than to let anyone know.

I think it's better that an individual's sexuality can be more open, and is being accepted... but, when that acceptance becomes over-run and abused... well that's a problem.

My Mom used to say something to the effect of not doing anything in public that I wouldn't want my parents to see...

I think that should be the rule :)

No one does anything in public I wouldn't want my parents to see me doing!

Karyn Lyndon said...

Re: PDA's. Yes, I'm all for it (especially if I'm one of the participants), but I don't want my eyes put out by it either!

Duke_of_Earle said...

"And I Pity, any girl who isn't me today"
West Side Story. It's in my book, too. I love it!

Today's post on my site is dedicated to you. Thought you ought to know.

Oh, and I LOVE the picture. (Angels...)

Karyn Lyndon said...

Re: "And I Pity any girl who isn't me today." You really shouldn't say things like that on a blog post about being gay.

Re: dedicating your post to me. Why does this make me worry?

Torso Man said...

Being gay is ok as long as it's 2 women.

Duke_of_Earle said...

Gee, it was just the rest of the lyrics of that verse. YOU started it!

Karyn Lyndon said...

It's okay for me to say it...I'm a girl!

Michelle said...

We were most fortunate in having grown up in a child-friendly era and the type of situations you write about makes me happy I do not have children of my own. It is very difficult to be a parent these days and to ensure that good ethics and morals are planted deeply in their minds. It is also sad that in the present day society, most families have both parents working fulltime which leaves the children free to experiment without their parents being aware of what they are getting up to.